What’s a woman got to do to attract a man and then keep her man attracted to her for the whole rest of her life?
Be his dream girl?
Make him happy and excited?
Turn him on sexually?
Oh it’s an awful lot of trying isn’t it?
I got a letter (yes a real one!) from a woman yesterday asking me what she should do to keep her relationship strong. She told me all the things she was doing and yet she said, “I still know in my heart of hearts that he isn’t as attracted to me as he once was.” She can feel the death knell but is holding on tight.
Hmm…the word strong – not exactly what we women look forward to at the end of the day is it? I don’t look forward to having a strong relationship with my husband or keeping him interested at the end of the day. Feels more like something I have to try to do. To work towards having a strong relationship. And how many times have we heard that sentence? A right turn off.
I already have a day job, don’t you?
This wonderful woman who has written to me is tired. Tired of all the trying. And let’s face it, it’s tiring for us women to keep trying to make someone do something. It’s boring for you and at worst it chips away at your confidence. Trying all the time saps a woman’s life force. The job of trying to keep a man stay intimate and loving with you for the whole rest of your life – it’s a big job and it’s one I don’t choose to say yes to even though it’s offered to me via most magazine’s and experts. No thank you. I pass.
So what’s a gal to do?
What do you do with the men or man in your life?
Me? I look at the men and man in my life as my dream men. They make my dreams come true. And I adore them for it! They know how to make me really, really happy because I ask them for it.Regularly. And because they do, it infuses them with more confidence to make me more happy in the future. My happiness inspires them. Muses are always women. You inspire him when you share your desire with him. There aren’t many women out there really sharing their dreams and outrageous wants daily with their men. Are you?
He wins when you do. Yes truly. So gently drop your past disappointments and ask him. A man will always rise to your expectation of him or fall if you are doing everything yourself. Ask him for one small desire today. What can he do for you today to make your day easier? It might to take the bins out or to make you dinner.
Ask him in a way that brings you pleasure to say it out loud. Don’t apologise when you ask remember – he wants to make you happy and this starts with a happy request and belief in yourself. Yes you are so totally worth it. Whatever it is.
Or maybe you want to go BIG with your ask – maybe you want to ask him out on a date. Or ask him to marry you? Or ask for more than you think he can give – or wants to give? Don’t stop yourself: Share your desires with him to make your dream for your day or your dream for your life true for the ultimate relationship. You’re important – remember that.
Upgrade the relationship you have with him – look to him as your happy maker.
Men are amazing and if you ask him – “is it true what is says in this newsletter that you want to make me happy?” Be prepared for the man or men in your life to be surprised that you’d ask it! It’s obvious to him. I’d love to hear what he says!
Because he get’s turned on every time you share your turn ons with him. You bring him closer to you when you share your desires with him. Go on, I dare you! The more you share and ask in a way that is pleasurable, the more he will want to come into your world. Be that the world of putting out the bins or your world of big dreams. Far from holding onto him, he’ll want to hold you far into the night Goddess and far into the rest of your life. Because there is no greater thing than seeing your smiling face.
He wants to make you happy.
He just doesn’t know how.
So ask, ask, ask and watch him come into your world quicker than you trying to make him happy would ever do.
How do you keep him interested in you? By finding your desires interesting and worthy of loving attention. By sharing your precious beautiful wants with him daily and not being afraid that because of this you’ll push him away. Quite the opposite – and it’s all in the way you ask. Your tone of voice and the words you use have the power to push or pull him towards you.
You are sublime and so very beautiful. Remember this the next time you ask.
So…What are you going to ask him? Tell me below, and know that we’re cheering you all the way!
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